If you can't stand the heat, get out of the kitchen. — Harry S Truman. President of the United States from 1945 to 1953 , Harry Vaughan. Topics referred to by the same term
I have found the best way to give advice to your children is to find out what they want and then advise them to do it.
Carry the battle to them. Don't let them bring it to you. Put them on the defensive. And don't ever apologize for anything.