I am who I choose to be. I always have been what I chose…though not always what I pleased. — Lois McMaster Bujold. American speculative fiction author (born 1949)
War is not its own end, except in some catastrophic slide into absolute damnation. It's peace that's wanted. Some better peace than the one you started with.
Exile, for no other motive than ease, would be the last defeat, with no seed of future victory in it.