Children might or might not be a blessing, but to create them and then fail them was surely damnation. — Lois McMaster Bujold. American speculative fiction author (born 1949) Children
Exile, for no other motive than ease, would be the last defeat, with no seed of future victory in it.
War is not its own end, except in some catastrophic slide into absolute damnation. It's peace that's wanted. Some better peace than the one you started with.